High Road U-Turns

Chuck says I’m always starting 💩. An assertion I maintain is offensive and blatantly false. 😵 I am NOT always starting 💩! What I am always doing, is sitting on yellow, waiting for OTHER people to start 💩. 💁🏻‍♀️ #TeamDefense

We went shopping yesterday. I loathe shopping. I prefer to do it online, because… people. 😑 But I’ve been suffering through pain attacks from my trigeminal neuralgia this week and apparently, it would do me some good to get out of the house. 🙄 Plus, he lured me out by offering to go shopping for craft supplies. 🤩 Just imagine a cartoon mouse being dragged by the scent of cheese. 🪤

A while ago, I saw a TikTok I found hilarious in which the guy said something along the lines of next time someone gives you a hard time about wearing a mask, take it off and tell them you’re relieved to finally meet someone who doesn’t care that you’ve got Covid. It’s been living rent-free in my head for a few months. 😏 Fortunately, I’ve only encountered kind people who are either wearing their own mask or minding their own business… until yesterday. 🙃

We’d gone to Joann without incident, but I wasn’t able to find everything I wanted. So we headed to Hobby Lobby. And that’s where I made a fRiEnD. 👀 It wasn’t all that busy and I noticed this woman who seemed to be following me. 🤨 {We’ve talked about my trust issues bordering on paranoia, so I never call people out. 😝} But as I traveled to the back corner of the store, leaving Chuck an aisle or 2 back, my new friend continued to follow me. She kept staring at me. 😯 She penetrated my personal bubble, 😳 for which I’ve been a proponent since waaaay before social distancing became cool. 😱 Then, she proceeded to point her talons at my face and demand, “Why do you wear that?”

I wear a sarcastic cat mask, {see below} so it occasionally draws attention. 😸 And, being an alum of the School of Awkward, I realize that not everyone is super smooth in social situations. Feeling relieved that she was only intrigued by my cat mask, I smiled and explained that I love cats and my mask helps me express that. 😁

Me and my snarky cat mask.

She was not satisfied. 🥸 “Why do you even wear a mask? YOU PEOPLE are the reason they keep bitching about this damned virus. If YOU PEOPLE are scared, you need to stay home so the rest of us can live life!” 😵‍💫

Shots fired! ❤️‍🔥

Trigger engaged! ⚠️

Prepare for fight 🥊 or flight.🏃‍♀️

YOU PEOPLE? Did this individual just call me a “you people?” 😤

Also… why is that one of the specific phrases that triggers me? Perhaps this warrants more self exploration. 🧐 I’ll add it to my list. 😉

But back to my adventure. I promise, you guys, I really try to be therapeutic in my communication. I try to remain calm and composed, at least on the outside. 🙈 I try to understand feelings behind statements, not just words. I try to be compassionate and empathetic, instead of emotional and defensive. It requires A LOT of conscious and intentional effort. 😓

But ya know what? I’m tired. I’m stressed out. I’m struggling. I take an exam every other week. I have empathy fatigue. And some days are just plain better than others. 😮‍💨

So, I chose violence. Not physically, but like verbal Kung fu. I usually take the high road, but occasionally I get altitude sickness and have to make a U-turn. 🤢 I’ll try again a different day. 🥴

Remembering my little TikTok video, I got really close to my aggressive friend, snatched my mask off, and said “Thank You! I’m so glad you’re not worried about me being positive for Covid. The doctor told me to quarantine for 2 weeks. But this is America and I’ll go out if I want! Everyone is gonna catch it eventually.” 🧐

She seemed troubled when she left me. 🙃 Chuck caught the last couple minutes and asked what I did. 😵 He said I have a problem and asked me why I’m always starting 💩. All I know is that I wanted to stay home. 🤷🏻‍♀️

Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ve got some studying to do. Particularly in the therapeutic communication department. 🤐

To V or Not To V?

Alas, poor Yorick. No plague for you.

This is going to be an uncomfortable post. But I’ve been doing a lot of soul searching and I want to talk about two of the most common {and what I feel are truly legitimate} concerns that keep surfacing when people discuss their fears and concerns surrounding the COVID vaccine.

A lot of people are not traditional antivaxxers. They have had all of their immunizations, immunize(d) their children, and even get annual flu shots. They have never had any doubts about the necessity or safety of any vaccine — until now. But why? What makes the COVID vaccine any different?

One of the most prominent concerns is that there’s not enough research. I truly mean no disrespect, so I hope no one takes offense. But I must ask, how much research would be satisfactory?

A common misconception is that, in the shadows, some government figures surreptitiously and hastily threw something together and called it a vaccine. Which honestly sounds just horrifying. I wholeheartedly agree. Who would willing volunteer to get in line for that mess?

Fortunately, that’s not how this works… that’s not how any of this works.

Now, you might be wondering, if it wasn’t just thrown together, how was a vaccine for a brand new virus manufactured so quickly? It’s a valid question.

The answer isn’t the huge secret conspiracy that some have suggested.

For one thing, while SARS-CoV-2 {the virus that causes Covid-19} may be new, Coronaviruses, as a whole, are not.

Virologists and immunologists have learned a tremendous amount from more than twenty years of research on earlier coronaviruses, like the severe acute respiratory syndrome (SARS) virus and the virus that causes Middle East respiratory syndrome (MERS), as well as the seasonal coronaviruses. They know considerably more about their transmission and their vulnerabilities, crucial information that is key to a successful vaccine.

Moreover, think about technology. Not just medical technology, but technology, in general. From manufacturing electronics, cars, and airplanes, to constructing homes, skyscrapers, and bridges, things that once took years or even decades can now be completed in a matter of months, weeks, or days. Because the foundational knowledge that has been gained and the processes that have been developed, over time, have made things much more efficient.

Thanks to trial and error, the blood, sweat, and tears of those who worked so tirelessly before us, and advancements in science and technology, we haven’t had to start from scratch with a lot of things in a very long time.

This is what happened with the Covid-19 vaccines. They did not just appear from nowhere. They weren’t the products of a few guys in a grimy basement somewhere, throwing ingredients together, hoping no one would notice that they had no idea what they were doing.

Decades of research by tens of thousands of well-educated, highly respected scientists from all over the world is what put in place the essential knowledge and methods responsible for the rapid development of these lifesaving vaccines.

Still, research is just one concern. The other issue many are grappling with is the lack of FDA approval.

I feel compelled to take a moment to mention that I find it interesting that none of us has really seemed all that bothered about vitamins, herbals, and dietary supplements, or the variety of mixes, powders, potions, pills, and oils, etc. that our friends, family members, and/or celebs are trying to pedal to us that are ALSO not approved or even regulated by the FDA, which also may have unknown long term effects. But that’s just my opinion, so I’ll try to keep my whataboutisms to a minimum.

Back to the facts…

If the main thing that makes you pause about getting the vaccine for yourself or supporting that decision from people you care about is its lack of FDA approval, there’s good news on the way.

Pfizer and Moderna are working on their status.

According to the FDA, for a drug to be approved it needs to have at least 6 months of data proving that the benefits outweigh the known and potential risks. 6 months worth of data obviously wasn’t available until recently.

Pfizer and Moderna both received their emergency use authorization in December 2020.

Pfizer moved quickly, submitting its application for full approval on May 7. Which they talk about in this press release.

Moderna wasn’t as quick, but submitted theirs on June 1st. Which you can read about in their own press release.

J&J, on the other hand, got the green light in late February, but has yet to file for full approval, although they reportedly have pLaNs to do so “lAtEr” in 2021, whatever that means. 🤨

There was originally discussion about expediting full approval. But after things were so heavily politicized, they had concerns that moving too quickly would erode more trust in vaccines just when we need them most. 

Still, it takes so long to grant full approval that a lot of people seem to be under the impression that the FDA has reservations about doing so at all. A lot of the unvaccinated individuals I’ve spoken with have cited concerns about the length of time it’s taking. They feel like there must be problems no one wants to tell us about.

Although there are cases of vaccine injuries and adverse reactions, they are published for all the world to see. The real problem is we just aren’t used to watching and waiting {like watching paint dry} as they go through their entire approval process. It’s usually happening in the background. Under normal circumstances, most of us may not even hear about a drug or vaccine until it’s been fully approved. So we aren’t familiar with things.

But it is a lengthy ordeal. Like I mentioned earlier, manufacturers can’t submit their application until they have at least 6 months of data. Once they satisfy that threshold, they can complete and submit their application. Then it can take another six months to a year for the FDA to scrutinize all the required supporting documentation, before they can reach a decision. That review process includes comprehensive reviews of clinical trial data and expert reports; inspection of equipment and manufacturing facilities; and multiple meetings with company executives.

This long and arduous process is why they opted for the emergency use authorization in the interim. They are currently deep in the process, so hopefully full approval will happen soon to put more people at ease.

Whether or not you choose to get the vaccine, I respect your decision. I hope this information can help provide some perspective and ease some of the concerns so many of us are having. Please stay safe and take care yourselves. 💗